tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post8976516668906718686..comments2023-10-14T22:00:58.392+11:00Comments on Midlife - A Journey: Letting go of the angerLozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-49025043205301421102009-03-05T13:18:00.001+11:002009-03-05T13:18:00.001+11:00Well, it is a process. The anger has dissipated ov...Well, it is a process. The anger has dissipated over time and you look back and wonder why you had wasted all that energy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-82999957974374478352009-03-03T13:09:00.001+11:002009-03-03T13:09:00.001+11:00There's some synchronicity. I was in a book shop ...There's some synchronicity. I was in a book shop 15 minutes ago and had it in my hand. I intend to buy it later in the week :)<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-23784816387643138382009-03-03T12:22:00.001+11:002009-03-03T12:22:00.001+11:00I've been the recipient of lots of pigeon poo over...I've been the recipient of lots of pigeon poo over the years - oh the injustice of it all! Best forgotten - the past is past. Only the present moment counts. Have you read The Power of Now? Its great!<br />suZen<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://erasingthebored.blogspot.com/2009/03/tag-game-or-newbies-shameful-run-on.html">The Tag Game or Newbie's Shameful Run-on Mouth</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-8061582208319087612009-03-03T10:27:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:27:00.001+11:00Cinnamon - I never thought of it as bullying befor...Cinnamon - I never thought of it as bullying before. The issue for them was that I had a dispute resolution process in my contract which if I had known they were going to terminate me early I would have activated. The person who gave me the contract the previous year denied doing so and the rest of the Board all forgot that a press release went out at the same time stating how glad they were to have appointed me for three years. Now if they all did forget it shows amazing incompetence, if they actively hid the fact that I had a three year deal then they lied to a lot of people along the way.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-65505780983048424372009-03-03T10:24:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:24:00.001+11:00Finn - I find I need constant reminders and mantra...Finn - I find I need constant reminders and mantras are one of the things that I need to revisit.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-69843908852323955702009-03-03T10:23:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:23:00.001+11:00Thank you Beth - and to everyone else for the supp...Thank you Beth - and to everyone else for the support too. You my blogging mates are one of the reasons I got through it all.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-45593124332217634702009-03-03T10:22:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:22:00.001+11:00Josie - it's easy to write it but sometimes diffic...Josie - it's easy to write it but sometimes difficult to live it. I guess we both have to keep trying<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-22657359150331397232009-03-03T10:11:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:11:00.001+11:00Rick, I am one of those people who is very good at...Rick, I am one of those people who is very good at masking things and I think that has been to my detriment at times.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-67189783170612930642009-03-03T10:10:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:10:00.001+11:00That is true Peter - I did learn who my friends we...That is true Peter - I did learn who my friends were and was delighted by the support I got from unexpected places too, including my new boss.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-71357414483375747382009-03-03T10:09:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:09:00.001+11:00Gypsy - ironically the instigator has since left a...Gypsy - ironically the instigator has since left and I am told is making noises about how disappointed he is with the way things have gone since as well. Problem is that he introduced the culture of deception but seems to want to absolve himself of responsibility for it.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-39131752991325664342009-03-03T10:07:00.001+11:002009-03-03T10:07:00.001+11:00Linda - perhaps the reason some people turned away...Linda - perhaps the reason some people turned away was embarassment. I was told it was a unanimous Board decision, but one Board member told me he had written a resignation letter over my treatment. Unfortunately he didn't follow through with it.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://midlife-journey.blogspot.com/2009/03/letting-go-of-anger.html">Letting go of the anger</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-73567768861617369242009-03-03T09:10:00.001+11:002009-03-03T09:10:00.001+11:00It sounds like you may have been subjected to bull...It sounds like you may have been subjected to bullying in the workplace- undermining and isolating you. It may be worth googling 'workplace bullying' and seeing if any of it rings true. If so, it may help you to understand some of the processes you have been through which in turn may help you to leave behind your anger and hurt. Workplace bullying is VERY widespread. Recognise it for what it is, reject the mark it has left on you, and try to move on. you are brave for talking about this.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://cinnamonscircumlocutions.blogspot.com/2009/02/living-heroes-conclusion.html">Living Heroes- the Conclusion</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-91858194609766144252009-03-03T03:21:00.001+11:002009-03-03T03:21:00.001+11:00The Serenity Prayer has been my mantra ever since ...The Serenity Prayer has been my mantra ever since my son was born. Letting go, as hard as it is, frees more than anything you can imagine. I'm glad you were able to to do. xo<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://grrlathr.com/2009/03/02/it-goes-on/">It Goes On</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-72221184844112328602009-03-03T02:46:00.001+11:002009-03-03T02:46:00.001+11:00Loz - I feel your pain because I have been there w...Loz - I feel your pain because I have been there way too many times. It is really hard to let go to of the anger - and for many of us it is the easiest way to mask our pain. I am glad you are moving one. the load will feel much lighter...<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://insanityisnotbad.blogspot.com/2009/02/there-is-never-nothing-going-on.html">There is never nothing going on....</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-74464190135122902352009-03-03T01:19:00.001+11:002009-03-03T01:19:00.001+11:00One of the things I admire about you most, Loz, is...One of the things I admire about you most, Loz, is your continuing efforts to become a better person. This is another great example of that. Letting go of our anger and resentments is maybe the hardest thing of all because some times it feels so justified. But you are right, it serves no purpose other than to eat away at us inside. I'm still working on letting go, and you encourage me to keep trying. Thank You!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-35121510936865061312009-03-03T00:34:00.001+11:002009-03-03T00:34:00.001+11:00Hi, Loz-I've decided that i like anger, but 99% of...Hi, Loz-I've decided that i like anger, but 99% of the time I handle it wrong and never know til too late when the 1% is. So I'm better to just leave it alone. Not sayin that i do tho. ~RickAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-20462050941912010232009-03-03T00:21:00.001+11:002009-03-03T00:21:00.001+11:00Of course it is sometimes (or even many times) dif...Of course it is sometimes (or even many times) difficult to simply swallow the anger. But being angry (how bad the reasons may be) undermines in the long run. So, it is good to decide that trhe past is the past and look they way forward. Because on that road, you will find people who will not disappoint you.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://worldgo.blogspot.com/2009/02/memoirs-11-life-in-south-africa-visitor.html">Memoirs 11: The life in South Africa, a visitor and the end.</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-11037658832117818162009-03-02T21:26:00.001+11:002009-03-02T21:26:00.001+11:00I have one word for you Loz.....Karma. One of the...I have one word for you Loz.....Karma. One of the things that makes me angrier than almost anything is when people are treated unjustly and seemingly there is no recourse to make it right. It's so frustrating but yes for your own well being and good health it is best to cut your losses and let it go. Karma will take care of those people, I really believe that.<br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://romanyangel.blogspot.com/2009/02/putting-fun-into-funeral.html">Putting the "fun" into funeral</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-67763125683741683602009-03-02T18:30:00.000+11:002009-03-02T18:30:00.000+11:00It is very disappointing when people are sneaky an...It is very disappointing when people are sneaky and dishonest to others. In a work situation it really undermines a big part of who you are. Anger is justified, but you are right in saying you have to eventually drop it. I find it sad that people would think it okay to be rude to you. Politeness takes very little effort. Perhaps they should learn to let go of their anger. I hope things are looking up for you. <br /><br />Recent blog post: <a href="http://lindasphere.blogspot.com/2009/03/random-happiness.html">Random Happiness</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com