tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post4822509258296033055..comments2023-10-14T22:00:58.392+11:00Comments on Midlife - A Journey: MatesLozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-1142448814321727472007-06-26T02:27:00.000+10:002007-06-26T02:27:00.000+10:00That is so true, Loz, people I thought were OUR fr...That is so true, Loz, people I thought were OUR friends, have floated away because I left him, yet having no real knowledge of why that was necessary. Sad, but I've learned to let go and move on. Not all relationships are meant to last, then it's time to let them go gracefully. <BR/><BR/>I agree with what you wrote to Paisley. I think that the time, energy, and emotion invested in online friendships makes them very valid and "real", even if we don't interact in each other's lives physically. The truth is we probably share more and know more about each other here, than we do with our next door neighbor or coworker.josie2shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452791371126155173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-25311006863025452062007-06-25T21:45:00.000+10:002007-06-25T21:45:00.000+10:00Josie - the thing about relationships and there br...Josie - the thing about relationships and there breakdown is that people often try to lay blame in order to understand what has happened. Sometimes there is no blame. It is as simple a thing as the fact that people change.<BR/><BR/>Paisley - you say that, but through your writing you have come to touch the lives of many. A different sort of relationship to be sure, but is it any less real than an email or a physical visit?Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-73637398169979580392007-06-25T21:34:00.000+10:002007-06-25T21:34:00.000+10:00i have never been able to maintain a long time rel...i have never been able to maintain a long time relationship.. i just seem to move on and disappear... but i am envious of even the fact that you feel close enough to drop in ,, and email ,, and that in itself would be a gift in my life...paisleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08231453820728399262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-70685390483832546172007-06-25T09:30:00.000+10:002007-06-25T09:30:00.000+10:00I've gone thru times like that too, Loz. Just comi...I've gone thru times like that too, Loz. Just coming to the end of one now - divorce court finals are tomorrow. The last few years have been one hellofa ride, and I'm just now starting to sort it all out and get back to reaching out to people I care about again. Real friends will understand and will still be there waiting for you when you do.josie2shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452791371126155173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-19768078313635329602007-06-25T09:04:00.000+10:002007-06-25T09:04:00.000+10:00Thanks Josie. I haven't been in a place where I ...Thanks Josie. I haven't been in a place where I was able to work on too many relationships for a while now, but that period is ending.Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-91478596243109406752007-06-25T00:03:00.000+10:002007-06-25T00:03:00.000+10:00Glad to read you are enjoying a visit from your so...Glad to read you are enjoying a visit from your son, Loz! Relationships do change over the years, even close ones, and not always in the way we would wish. I think the follow-up email you sent to Ian was a great start in rebuilding the closeness you once had. It told him you care and that he matters in your life Maybe he just didn't know what to say by way of response. (You are right that guys aren't always too good when it comes to sharing emotional stuff.) The fact that you enjoyed each other's company at the game, and then dropped by to say "hi", is a great start at getting back to where you were. Keep sharing your time and thoughts with him, and see if he comes around. I'm betting he will. The fact that he emailed you after the game, says he still values your friendship. :-)josie2shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452791371126155173noreply@blogger.com