tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post4353071638928967901..comments2023-10-14T22:00:58.392+11:00Comments on Midlife - A Journey: Lonesome HomeLozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-7392965086235260542007-09-11T19:25:00.000+10:002007-09-11T19:25:00.000+10:00Jen - I do concentrate on the good memories and I ...Jen - I do concentrate on the good memories and I hope that others will too. I spoke to my youngest daughter last night, asked her if she was settling in and how her new room was. She said "OK". When I asked her why it was just OK she said "It's just different."Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-1911089891888227612007-09-11T15:02:00.000+10:002007-09-11T15:02:00.000+10:00I understand how hard and sad it would be for you ...I understand how hard and sad it would be for you to add this piece of closure to your life.<BR/><BR/>Something you can never lose is the memories. Lots and lots of happy and loving memories. And you can always revisit those in your mind and of course with photos (which I'm sure you will have heaps of being such a keen photographer.)<BR/><BR/>It will be a new and fresh start for L with hopefully a not so heavy burden to renew her life. And that is important too.<BR/><BR/>JenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-9008219515458301372007-09-11T12:44:00.001+10:002007-09-11T12:44:00.001+10:00Gypsy - as I've said on your blog, I know what you...Gypsy - as I've said on your blog, I know what you're going through. Keep your chin up.Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-45188581958455217592007-09-11T12:44:00.000+10:002007-09-11T12:44:00.000+10:00Thank you for the encouragement BlurThank you for the encouragement BlurLozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-24461087334221130952007-09-11T12:32:00.000+10:002007-09-11T12:32:00.000+10:00I may very well be walking in your shoes one of th...I may very well be walking in your shoes one of these days Loz and I don't look forward to it at all.<BR/><BR/>I still often drive past my childhood home but it has a different air about it now, like it was never ours.<BR/><BR/>Memories are sometimes bittersweet aren't they?Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339140046788925506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-42345499791094294462007-09-11T12:09:00.000+10:002007-09-11T12:09:00.000+10:00My goodness, it all sound so familiar. It's only n...My goodness, it all sound so familiar. It's only natural to feel the sadness at this point but once you have moved on, things will fall into place again soon, somehow.Blur Tinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07792543153416871887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-24510118501134549062007-09-11T11:45:00.000+10:002007-09-11T11:45:00.000+10:00Thanks DorothyI have begun to open up to the kids ...Thanks Dorothy<BR/>I have begun to open up to the kids as well. Not an easy thing for me to do given my past, but my oldest daughter has commented on the fact that she has enjoyed the dialogue.Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-5998581006956160152007-09-11T11:40:00.000+10:002007-09-11T11:40:00.000+10:00Loz, Good luck getting through this hard time. Mo...Loz, Good luck getting through this hard time. Moving, giving up your history is never easy. However, you've made a decision and over time you;ll be okay with it...<BR/><BR/>The important people in your life now are the children. Helping them adjust is probably the hardest part of your divorce. Talk about it, often, and ask them if they have questions. You'll be surprised at how they will appreciate the opportunity to share their feelings.Dorothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03181570769074774554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-9138574395644664392007-09-11T10:14:00.000+10:002007-09-11T10:14:00.000+10:00Hi Ingrid - I still regularly drive past the house...Hi Ingrid - I still regularly drive past the house I grew up in too which I have written about previously here http://manta57.blogspot.com/2007/06/home.html<BR/><BR/>Cynthia - I'm sure it will get easier.<BR/><BR/>Mel - is there ever final closure?<BR/><BR/>Josie - here here!Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-43794021552661563592007-09-11T05:38:00.000+10:002007-09-11T05:38:00.000+10:00I can attest that it is very, very hard to leave a...I can attest that it is very, very hard to leave a place that was home - with so many memories. Even though you left a bit earlier, I know it gave you comfort that they were all together still "at home". But your are right, it is time for life to move on for everyone. They will find their place to feel comfortable, just as you have. May we all have another place that truely feels like home again, someday!josie2shoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15452791371126155173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-53611684100643862132007-09-11T02:29:00.000+10:002007-09-11T02:29:00.000+10:00just one more step towards closure.just one more step towards closure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-89915003978704661852007-09-10T23:43:00.000+10:002007-09-10T23:43:00.000+10:00That's a challenging time with so many memories th...That's a challenging time with so many memories there. Hang in there.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641264346663533706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-46957437681881762262007-09-10T23:12:00.000+10:002007-09-10T23:12:00.000+10:00Changes like that can stir up feelings that we tho...Changes like that can stir up feelings that we thought had been put to rest.<BR/><BR/>I felt something similar when my mother sold the house I grew up in, the house we lived in when my dad died. The last time I was in Puerto Rico I swung by the house and it felt weird that it was no longer ours. But things change and people need to move on.Boricua in Texashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10408201125366918838noreply@blogger.com