tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post3482506417658391146..comments2023-10-14T22:00:58.392+11:00Comments on Midlife - A Journey: The heart of the onionLozhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-9819559838921922012010-11-24T09:23:40.400+11:002010-11-24T09:23:40.400+11:00Hey Finding - thanks for coming back - this blog h...Hey Finding - thanks for coming back - this blog has changed, just like I have, not as introspective as I was when struggling with the separation and divorce. My ex and I both have new partners and are both far happier now than then - even though for a long time we didn' realise we were unhappy. Thanks for coming back. Are you still blogging?Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-24349729630893456982010-11-24T03:01:18.887+11:002010-11-24T03:01:18.887+11:00Loz, My inbox got a blast from the past, getting t...Loz, My inbox got a blast from the past, getting this post update and seeing my old ID still on your site. I have to agree with statement here again. Funny, been almost 4 years since I was a frequent visitor, having the need for male viewpoints for divorce survival. The 'share' was important to me, but I did 'learn' as well. Learn from those who traveled that road before me. Being anon benefited me and blogging was a great tool for that time in life. <br /><br />Glad that your life seems to have continued to improve.Findingheart from oldnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-82630490641499927502010-11-23T09:10:05.168+11:002010-11-23T09:10:05.168+11:00Hi Michelle - thank you too. One of the inetestin...Hi Michelle - thank you too. One of the inetesting things about this post too is the number of people who commented originally who have now fallen out of the blogging world. People who were true friends to me in dark times. Thank you for coming back and I promise I'll do the same :)Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-30543488007244626812010-11-23T09:08:47.259+11:002010-11-23T09:08:47.259+11:00Jen - it's interesting re-visiting some of thi...Jen - it's interesting re-visiting some of this old stuff. I keep expalining to people that blogs are like audits - a snapshot of a point in time, a perspective that in another time and place may be very different. Thanks for being on the journey with me.Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-3203469612315027282010-11-23T08:33:26.296+11:002010-11-23T08:33:26.296+11:00I have slowed down a bit on my blog as well. Duri...I have slowed down a bit on my blog as well. During the height of my blogging (aka personal crisis) I was heartened to find Loz's blog. We're of the opposite sex and on opposite ends of the world and yet we shared a common thread. I welcomed reading about and receiving comments from Loz, so far away and yet so close to my head and heart.<br />Michelle xxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04306798045187396563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-55337382617917084132010-11-23T08:16:57.693+11:002010-11-23T08:16:57.693+11:00This is a wonderful piece to re-read.
Beautifully...This is a wonderful piece to re-read.<br /><br />Beautifully written. <br /><br />Again, I can't believe this is 3 years ago.<br /><br />I think many bloggers can relate. I have shared so much with blogging mates that I have not shared with family or even my closest friends.<br /><br />Interesting we can do that. Seeking acceptance, confirmation, approval.<br /><br />A release putting it to paper?<br /><br />Whatever the reason, blogging is wonderful. It shows us others can be feeling the same. It shows us others have been through similar things. Their confirmations, their advice can help us and show us we are never alone.<br /><br />I was actually chatting to someone last night and we got to talking about blogs.. He said... 'Life's too short for blogs"...<br /><br />I said. "Is another way of sharing and learning."<br /><br />He said.. "sharing I'd agree. but not so for learning.. in my veiw"<br /><br />I look forward to challenging him on that one, because for me I have learnt so much from others and heaps about myself through blogging.<br /><br />I'm glad you are back blogging Laurie. I had missed the blog.<br /><br />Jen xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-51231308993319778502010-11-21T22:17:12.287+11:002010-11-21T22:17:12.287+11:00You're right Maxabella - This was a time when ...You're right Maxabella - This was a time when I was dealing with a lot of crap which has now passed. But blogs are very much a snapshot of how we feel and who we are at the time we write the post. I found a sense of cimmunity in blogging at a time when I was being wiped by many people who had shared my life.Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-58192288549795806882010-11-21T19:13:34.163+11:002010-11-21T19:13:34.163+11:00I never think too much about the 'whys' of...I never think too much about the 'whys' of blogging, Loz. I just write because I like it. I love the comments, but I don't write for anyone but myself. People judge you silently in life, in bloggerland they comment sometimes. It's good to give them a voice just as you have found one yourself. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-27824456679586484922007-11-17T07:07:00.000+11:002007-11-17T07:07:00.000+11:00We cannot always be exposing our inner sanctum to ...We cannot always be exposing our inner sanctum to those we live with each day, each moment. Those who can do, those who cannot - well they Blog. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes "head thinkers" are stressful for those who are not. Blogging helps to empty out what needs to be processed.<BR/><BR/>Don't stop it.lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392205573326695683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-80518681130123950612007-11-15T15:28:00.000+11:002007-11-15T15:28:00.000+11:00Well thankyou very much for caring enough to find ...Well thankyou very much for caring enough to find your way back Hope ;)Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-17404449745786368892007-11-15T13:34:00.000+11:002007-11-15T13:34:00.000+11:00Hey Loz! I found you! lol somehow i deleted you l...Hey Loz! I found you! lol somehow i deleted you link and had to ask around thinking no way would I be able to get back and lo an behold someone on a blog not that owner but a reader saw my query and shot me a link...woohooAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-23084332687570854862007-11-09T00:03:00.000+11:002007-11-09T00:03:00.000+11:00Wonderful post Loz and yours is a blog I will alwa...Wonderful post Loz and yours is a blog I will always enjoy visiting. Why do I enjoy it? I am glad you asked. I enjoy reading what you write because I sense your honesty, I feel you questioning yourself and your life and I find you to be a breath of fresh air. It's hard to be so honest when you know there are people reading who will be tearing everything your write to ribbons but try to pretend they don't exist or you won't be true to yourself. I have had to overcome the same problem until I realised it is THEIR problem, not mine. No one is holding a gun to their head and making them read what you write. To put it harshly....screw em. It's your blog, it's your little place in the world where you don't have to be anyone but yourself. If people don't like it they simply don't have to come here. Sermon over.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339140046788925506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-64505652669720531992007-11-07T17:23:00.000+11:002007-11-07T17:23:00.000+11:00Oh Loz, one day quite a few years ago, remember I'...Oh Loz, one day quite a few years ago, remember I'm older then you...someone said something very bad about me. It wasn't true. However, I was crushed. I asked a very dear friend why the criticism..he simply looked at me and said. When your up there..you'll find many who want you down here...get use to it..and go where you dare to soar...and so I did, and I never ever, looked back. I wish you will too. Your blog is wonderful, filled with life, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Care about what you think is right. You will never please those jealous of you. And I think is what most of the criticism is related to. Best of luck..I'll be back...and into each and every room..<BR/><BR/>Dorothy from grammology<BR/>remember to call your grandma<BR/>http://grammology.comDorothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03181570769074774554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-16497954121184434862007-11-06T22:15:00.000+11:002007-11-06T22:15:00.000+11:00I think we visit blogs, and sometimes post, becaus...I think we visit blogs, and sometimes post, because we feel comfortable there. I watch movies that make me feel a certain way, although I know they aren't real. Blogs don't 'sell' anything except a version of a person's reality, whatever that reality is to them.<BR/><BR/>In spilling my guts during my divorce, I found an outlet and a way to get things off my chest. Many of my commenters would offer up support and encouragement, even though they only had my side of the picture. I would often get statements assuming I would hate my ex or offer blind support as if I were a saint. <BR/><BR/>People see what they want to see and write from their own perspectives. Writing does peel back the onion a bit and let people smell the you they may not get to smell in 'real life'. But the perspectives are their own and only they control that. <BR/><BR/>Sorry so long-winded. ;)FindingHearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06522310284452868076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-87614757598606593612007-11-05T18:30:00.000+11:002007-11-05T18:30:00.000+11:00Each post is another room, indeed. I find it inte...Each post is another room, indeed. I find it interesting that people have actually said those things to you -- have questioned your motivations. Would they say this to your face? Most likely not. I enjoy your frankness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-7077071449839956632007-11-05T14:45:00.000+11:002007-11-05T14:45:00.000+11:00I read blogs to learn.. from every post there is a...I read blogs to learn.. from every post there is always something to take away with you...It's an excellent way to express yourself....and something I enjoy...I don't know why I blog I didn't start with a purpose in mind.. it's just a way of expressing what goes on behind my eyeballs...:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-54874534216490983902007-11-05T04:49:00.000+11:002007-11-05T04:49:00.000+11:00Well said. When I first started posting, because ...Well said. When I first started posting, because of the truth I was sharing, I posted secretly using a nom de plume and only told a handful of friends. <BR/><BR/>I have been posting for a year now and not too long ago decided that I would let my world of readers know who I am. It was not an easy decision. Sharing my heart and the responses that I get to my writing has helped me find my bliss. <BR/><BR/>Most of the people reading my blog are strangers. My friends typically do not read and I have been told they find what I share to be surprising and too intimate. And so to my new online friends like you, I say thank you. When the nay sayers find they can look as deeply within as you do and share their heart they will begin to find their bliss as well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04306798045187396563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-35818247835323438812007-11-04T17:27:00.000+11:002007-11-04T17:27:00.000+11:00i am the same.. i havent known you too long..but n...i am the same.. i havent known you too long..but never feel confronted or otherwise by any of the blogs i read.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-72986861405355899952007-11-04T17:07:00.000+11:002007-11-04T17:07:00.000+11:00Josie - I think people are surprised when they act...Josie - I think people are surprised when they actually start to see the layers peeled.<BR/><BR/>Paisley - and for me Paisley, one difference is though, that I am not anonymous here.<BR/><BR/>Terri - I think you may have picked up that there is a reason behind the post that I cannot reveal.<BR/><BR/>Jen - Of course you are always welcome.<BR/><BR/>Lady Penelope - No it was not my intention, but I always hope that what I write can be a mirror for people in which they can see some small part of themselves.<BR/><BR/>Happystill - this is the real me - warts and all.Lozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10513517402604501840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-44893305425591419142007-11-04T12:58:00.000+11:002007-11-04T12:58:00.000+11:00There are a few blogs tht I visit regularly - this...There are a few blogs tht I visit regularly - this is one - because I can hear the cogs of my own life turning there. We never see ourselves as others see us. We can only imagine what people really think about us. And if you are presenting a 'partial' picture to the blogging world then it's because we can't ever show the whole picture. It would probably be too painful for ourselves and everyone around us.<BR/>I love visiting you.. you have a nice wee house where, I think, people are made to feel welcome and valued. If that's not the real you, don't tell me.... I don't want to knowAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-14676426088065694732007-11-04T11:44:00.000+11:002007-11-04T11:44:00.000+11:00I pealed away the layers of the onion as I read th...I pealed away the layers of the onion as I read this post. I found the heart....it reduced me to tears. <BR/><BR/>I know that was not your intention at all. <BR/><BR/>It was the moment in time when "listening" to someone elses journey through life, that gave me the ability to face some of my own.<BR/><BR/>Thank YouUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03804060386383922516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-72732678382932560072007-11-04T10:34:00.000+11:002007-11-04T10:34:00.000+11:00nice post!!I have new posts, pass if you want toby...nice post!!<BR/><BR/>I have new posts, pass if you want to<BR/><BR/>bye!marianohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00148592573701691362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-47191756187847414292007-11-04T10:09:00.000+11:002007-11-04T10:09:00.000+11:00I feel very comfortable visiting 'your house' Laur...I feel very comfortable visiting 'your house' Laurie. Perhaps I am confronted at times by the issues raised. Makes me step back and have a good think.<BR/>But that is good. Very good!<BR/>Helps me to grow and move on.<BR/>I also believe we never release all of the 'real us' to those around us, and that perhaps this forum is the way so many feel they can do that. For me though it is through my personal journal. I don't think I could ever do that on this type of forum. But then who knows. One should never say never.<BR/>I like being a constant 'visitor' and hope I will always be welcome.<BR/><BR/>JenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-81571009605872228522007-11-03T23:26:00.000+11:002007-11-03T23:26:00.000+11:00I think there will always be those that think you ...I think there will always be those that think you don't have a right to express certain things through your blog. But I agree with your sentiment that for many of us, it is a means of expressing much of what we are unable to express in person. I can really relate to this. Regardless, no one else has the right to try preventing you from doing so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1087502739566584714.post-70078244665695983512007-11-03T22:16:00.000+11:002007-11-03T22:16:00.000+11:00many of you also have fragilities that you reveal ...many of you also have fragilities that you reveal on your blogs but that are not necessarily the same as the ones you reveal to the people you know in the real world.<BR/><BR/>for me... this is the heart of the onion.....paisleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08231453820728399262noreply@blogger.com