Friday, January 30, 2009

Trust is like virginity...

...once gone it's very hard to get back.
I've told this story twice in comments on other sites in the past day both for very different reasons.   Firstly over at Paisley's site it was made to make a point about trust being earned by people whom we regard as experts.  Secondly over on That Darn Girl's blog it was made in a much more flippant manner.

But given the synchronicity I thought that I'd re-tell the story here.

A number of years ago I tore a groin muscle playing basketball.  In some pain and wondering whether I might need some extra investigation to see how bad the tear was I decided to attend at my local GP's.   After telling him that I had felt the groin tear whilst running down the court the previous night he asked me to drop my dax and climb onto the examination table.  He then grabbed me by the balls and asked me to cough and came to the conclusion that I had an infection whereupon he prescribed a course of antibiotics.
Needless to say I didn't fill the prescription nor did I ever go back to his surgery again.  So like I said at the beginning of this post there is a certain amount of automatic trust we invest in people because of the position they hold, but it may only take one little breach in that trust to find that it is gone forever.  And once gone it is really hard to get it back.

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9 comments:

Just telling it like it is said...

oooowe Ohch... Am I flip en...I was just teasing (getting a laugh if you will in jest) really I never grabbed balls when I wasn't suppose too.
Let me tell you why he grabbed your balls, He wanted to make sure that your intestines didn't fall though your inguinal hernia (very important since intestine could fall thought the inguinal muscle and cause necrosis (like black and dead) could cause something very serious even death. Also, you could have just have something as easily as epididymitis, a inflammation of the C located in the testicle sac that would sanitation antibiotics... I'm sorry that he didn't tell you what the antibiotics were for since he may have not felt an opening in your inguinal area (hence the cough and it doesn't usually repair itself), I am not a Dr. I can only speculate ( I never think I am a Dr. and never give medical advise) but I hope this make you feel better. The epididymitis holds sperm in the testical, and makes sperm maybe he was thinking he was helping out a brother...I'm not sure...
I like to use humor to help me over what I have seen in the ER and my recent break up please don't take it literally...
Thanks darn girl

Just telling it like it is said...

ummm that was sanction antibiotics but then again I can't spell and that was epididymitis not C

Loz said...

Hi TDG - yep I agree, death is serious. But maybe I didn't make myself that clear either. He did tell me that I had an infection. Maybe that was totally unrelated to the basketball injury but he didn't tell me that and I didn't fill the prescription. I did go on to father one more child a few years later so maybe I didn't have a hernia or something that permanently affected the knackers. Thank you for the explanantion...I think ;)

Shinade said...

Hi Loz,
I finally made it over. I keep trying to go to the wrong site.

I understand how you feel. Of course us women are so use to being poked and delved into almost all of our lives that it becomes just another thing you do.

But, still I like you because of extreme experiences in my life have trouble trusting anyone.

I also just wanted to say thank you for dropping in. It was so very kind of you and meant so much to me.

I now have you added to my blog roll. So I can make sure to visit.

Although I haven't been by to see Jodi in months and she is someone I care about deeply. Her writing is so wonderful and so touching.

She too is on my list to once again start making regular visits. I miss her very much.


I hope you are having a great weekend. I need to be working on a post. But oh my their are some fabulous old movies on and I am just lazy right now.

My post will probably be late.


BTW...I hope those gorgeous sons of yours are doing well!

Happy day over there on the other side!
Hugs,
Jackie:-)

Loz said...

Hi Jackie and welcome back. DOn't feel bad, I've neglected my blogging mates too just because things have been too busy. I'll try and make more visits as well.

paisley said...

how right you are... whereas i have patched things with my therapist,, i will not see my GP till end of feb so i wont know if it sank in or not.. i know they are busy,, but when you are depending on someone to do something you cannot do for yourself... well,, them,, as you say my friend,, it is all about trust....

darlene said...

aint this the truth!!

anni said...

Well I'm sorry for that. Ouch I'm sure. You did the right thing by listening to your gut. Funny what struck me most was your comment about trust. I'm sure it was in jest but still...I like to think that we are human and that while it may be hard to regain trust, it's not impossible. Just some random thoughts. I learned a lot coming here today. Thanks Just...

It's Time to Live... said...

...better you than me! :0)