Thursday, January 1, 2009

It's about time

I won't be sorry to see the back of 2008.  It was the best of times it was the worst of times.   And I have actually tried writing this post twice and been thrown out and lost it twice.  Maybe someones trying to tell me something.   I was pretty ungracious to people in the earlier versions.  So I figure I'll tone it down a bit.

What did I learn?

Firstly that putting things in writing is not necessarily a good thing with personal stuff because it can be passed onto people who have no right to see it.  That people will also talk out of school - two job interviews in a the same industry this year spent a lot of time concentrating on my personal life rather than my ability to do the job.   Made me realise that maybe I won't work in that industry again.   People gossip way too much.

Secondly with work stuff I've learnt that I need to insist on having things in writing.  Despite people claiming friendship and giving personal undertakings to behave in a certain way, they will do what is best for them not for you.

And from that lesson and others I've learnt that friendship is a fickle thing.  That some people sometimes will judge and not be able to shift from that judgement.    That forgiveness is not easily come by.

I've also learnt that people need to be held accountable in the roles they are in.    It is not right that they ignore what their governance documents tell them they should do.   If you accept that the personal qualities required for a position include honesty, respect and professionalism, then make sure you abide by them rather than ignore them.

And despite that, I have learnt that help comes from unexpected places and that there are people who are prepared to assist where they can.

That if the universe has a purpose it is sometimes cloaked in darkness.  That things unfold as they will and that the unexpected is the norm.

And there were also plenty of good things - a trip to Thailand with my lady, a recommitment and rebirth of my relationship with my daughters, my heart to hearts with my sisters, my Mum's finally agreeing to meet my new lady and her efforts to come to know her, my new dog Ramsey, our new home, the new work direction and meeting new people.

So the worst of times but way more importantly the best of times.

And if the universe has a purpose I have learnt that it is better not to know what it is.  That there will always be unexpected turns, for better and worse, but that ultimately in all things, good and bad, we can learn lessons to make us better people.

8 comments:

Romany Angel said...

There will always be those who feel superior and like to judge or score points. The only important thing is that you know what the truth is, R knows the truth and hopefully the kids do too. Everyone else can please themselves and may they have to walk a mile in your shoes one day. Let's hope they get blisters that fester and cause them great pain...god did I just say that out loud....and here the New Year is only 45 minutes old and I'm already putting a curse on myself.


Let me just wish you, R and those you love a wonderfully Happy New year. I just hope you've had all your bad luck now and can start looking forward to a brighter future.

Finn said...

Rebirth is a great thing. Every year teaches us things and gives us a fresh chance to make the life we want to live.

I hope your 2009 is a continuation of all the wonderful things that came your way this year and an end to the bad ones.

Peter (Worldman): said...

And it will be as always. With time, your wounds will heal and you will remember only the good things.

My best wishes for a Happy New Year to you and the ones you love.

Peter

Hope said...

Hey Loz!!!
You made it baby!
You made it.

I'm proud of you!

hope

Blur Ting said...

Good round up of the year, Loz. I like your point of view.

Jen said...

Wow Laurie - The way you wrote that! Just woderful.

It does appear you are neally to the other side of all the really hard stuff. The lessons have been learnt. The memories in storage. The new unfolding and welcomed.

The journey really is wonderful. We do need to experience the difficult stuff to truly appreciate the special stuff.

Take care and have a wonderful year.

Jen

Marja said...

I agree There is a lesson in everything and I think everything happens for a reason. See you had a lot of good things happening to be grateful for. Have a great 2009

Live and Learn the Hard Way said...

It is true that forgiveness is not easily come by, but it is also true that I have always found being forgiving to be as good for me as for the person I am forgiving.