Sunday, July 8, 2007

From my Cousin - Reason Season or Lifetime

My Dad's sister was a war bride meeting and marrying an American soldier during World War 2 and returning with him to the States where several of my cousins were born. They returned to Australia in the early 1960's and my Uncle John was diagnosed with MS eventually succumbing to the disease in the 1970's. He was one of the bravest men I have ever met and his story should be the subject of another post. The reason for this one however is that two of my cousins returned to the States, are married and raising their families over there. I have seen both of them maybe twice in the last 25 years.

One of them, Alice, emails me weekly, and whilst I don't respond a lot it is nice to know she does think of me. Today I received a forwarded email from her with the following text -

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,
whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

There was a certain synchronicity about this email that I had to share.

6 comments:

Josie Two Shoes said...

I have read this one before, Loz, and it is indeed a timely reminder, especially when we are dealing with people leaving, new friends coming,and many changes in our lives. I have come to accept that not every relationship was meant to be forever, that helps with the healing. Is it ok with you if I copy this to my blog?

"Wolfgang" said...

That's a very nice forward you received. Its nice that she emails you. Those bonds of family are important to maintain no matter how distant geographically. My family is not very close at all and I wish we were.

Loz said...

Of course it is Josie

Epimenides said...

Beautiful and wise words loz. Your cousin really loves you, and that must mean a lot!

Loz said...

Family is important Wolfgang, even more so now, warts and all.

Yes Epi, I appreciate her taking the time to keep in contact from so far away.

Finn said...

Lovely.